One of the concerns many men have regarding massage is the body’s potential reactions during the session. This concern is even more prevalent when it comes to a tantric massage.
Male body reactions during tantric massage
The fact of being nude, massaged entirely with oils, by expert hands that stimulate primal energy, leads the body to experience unsettling sensations. The body and mind relax deeply, and the body frees itself from pre-established constraints. This can become very observable regarding certain parts of the male body.
Sexual arousal and erection during the massage
One of the specific features of tantric massage for men that spontaneously comes to mind is the subject of erection.
I observe three main types of mental attitudes regarding erection for a man who comes to be massaged by me.
Fear of erection
There is the man who “dreads” having an erection during the massage, wondering what the practitioner will think.
To these men, I reply that an erection is completely normal and will not be judged. And even less “exploited” for any purpose whatsoever. I invite the man to focus on the sensations traveling through his body, without letting himself be drawn toward a goal oriented by the erection. Very often, the erection passes, then returns or does not return. In all cases, it is normal and in no way changes the course of the massage.
Desire for an erection
There is the man who “wants” to have an erection during the massage, either for the sensations it provides or to “prove” his potency.
To these men, I explain that the importance of this massage does not lie in the presence of an erection. What is important is listening to the sensations of one’s body and being present to oneself without pursuing a pre-established goal. It happens quite often that the man experiences an absence of erection even though the erogenous zones (including the penis) are massaged. This surprises him while allowing him to discover a range of new sensations.
The proper place of the erection
To complete this triptych, there is the man who does not even ask himself the question (anymore) because he knows that an erection says nothing particular about him. This man knows that it is not a condition to be met to experience a nourishing and beneficial massage. I must say that I encounter few of this third type of man; generally, they are men who have already received a high-quality tantric massage.
To summarize, the answer to the question “What will happen if I have an erection?” is that nothing more or less will happen, whether there is an erection or not. Any reaction of the body is natural and is part of the massage experience if it occurs. It is enough simply to observe it internally, without clinging to it or rejecting it.
Tantric massage of the penis (lingam massage)
To be direct, I will answer this clearly. Yes, the penis is explicitly massaged during the tantric massage. This is one of the specific features of tantric massage for men, especially when it is a man who is attending to you. However, this massage is not performed with sexual intent or to provide sensations of pleasure. While it is common for the sensations to be very pleasant, this is a side effect and not a goal. The penis (or lingam in Tantra) is massaged to stimulate energy points and promote the amplification of essential energy. This simultaneously mobilizes sexual energy in general, but not always. It happens that a man experiences energy developing and filling his body during the massage of the genitals without necessarily feeling sexual arousal or an erection.
Prostate massage
Another specific feature of the male body to be considered in tantric massage is what the ancients called the sacred point. From an anatomical point of view, this corresponds to the prostate area. The therapeutic massage of this area is a very intense practice and can generate a strong energy surge. This is why I have chosen never to practice this prostatic massage during the first appointment.
Prostatic massage is one of the specific features of tantric massage for men (indeed, women do not have a prostate…).
In fact, I first perform an assessment of the body’s energetic state to begin clearing the circulation pathways in the body. This is a prerequisite before being able to mobilize the massage of the sacred point. Otherwise, it would be like sending the power of a fire hose into a small, clogged pipe… If one sends more pressure than the channels can carry, it could risk causing damage…
Prostatic massage is beneficial, both energetically and physiologically. It helps maintain the health of this vital organ for male sexuality. It also allows for the development of a man’s sensuality and increases his orgasmic capacities. This, among other things, is linked to opening up to deeper sensations and the acceptance of receiving within oneself.
Depending on the man’s life path, it may require one to five tantric massage sessions before prostatic massage can be considered. Furthermore, I only practice this massage if it is requested by the man. I also occasionally suggest it when it seems to me that it will be beneficial for the person’s evolution.
Is there a “happy ending” with this massage?
Since the term “tantric massage” is, unfortunately, often used to sell sex, many men think that a “finishing touch” is an integral part of a quality tantric massage…
This is why I clearly state that authentic tantric massage is not intended to satisfy sexual fantasies. Rather, it is about discovering other ways of relating to one’s own body and freeing oneself from the urgency of ejaculation at all costs. There is therefore no “happy ending” within the scope of this massage. At best, it would keep you in your current way of functioning without helping you progress toward a greater freedom of being. At worst, it would lead you to think that Tantra is not a useful resource on your path. Which would be a great shame.
Tantric massage prepares your body so that your sexual energy circulates continuously and contributes to your elevation. There is no end with this massage; it is the beginning of a permanent and comfortable energy rise.
To learn more about the specifics of tantric massage between men, read the blog articles on this subject.
